Right and Wrong

Right and wrong, who is to determine what is which; society, religion or the individual?
Of course we have the legislation to determine the two, but the definitions are
inconsistent.
Two major no-no's in most societies are theft and murder. They are considered wrong by most people, but reality shows that sometimes they seem to be right.
How is this then, you might ask? Well, if a man and his family have been threatened (or violated) and the man then kills the violator, he will most likely be convicted of murder. If one nation is threatened or violated there is no moral problem in retaliating, although numerous people might be killed because of that. Still it is murder and perhaps even worse: the people dying here have probably no personal involvement with the reason for the one nation's retaliation. If you were to ask me, I would say that the second example is the most wrong of the two.
Let's use the man and his family again for another example involving theft. The
man is caught stealing because he and his family have no food; he gets convicted.
The nation mentioned before discovers mineral reserves on the land of the nation's original inhabitants. They are moved off their land to a desolate place
far away from their ancestors graves and spirits, this is generally approved of
in terms of the nation's financial well being, but it still is theft.
One might be tempted to ask: but is that not the laws of evolution? Yes, but how
come they only apply to the righteous few? Now that is hypocrisy if that term
holds any meaning at all.
Right and wrong can be determined just as differently as people are different.
What is right for me could very well be wrong for you and what is right for you
could very well turn out to be wrong for me. "One law for the lion and the ox is
oppression!" (W. Blake).

Who should then determine right and wrong; society, religion or the individual?
One of the three is easily ruled out; whose religion should determine this; mine
or yours?
Unfortunately it seems most sane to choose society, because if each individual were to determine right and wrong society would end up in chaos and rapidly
fall apart. In other words as long as we choose to uphold society as we know it we have to live with the fact that this choise includes oppression of the individual.
Aren't there other alternatives you might ask? Yes, but to most people not a very attractive one: we could dissolve society as we know it and live in small bands or
tribes; the fewer people gathered together on the same ideology the fewer laws
and restrictions. The less complex society the more room for unrestricted activity.
The choise is ours, but perhaps the world chooses for us considering:
a) all the prophesies of catastrophy and disaster appearing in the media today.
b) the way we still tend to bite the hand that feeds us; namely Nature.

An Essay on Right and Wrong